A wedding in UP got called off because of 2 Rasgullas. Yes, you read that right, 2 Rasgullas!

As diverse as the country itself, India’s wedding traditions are a talk of legend. We have heard of 400 Crore weddings, Bride and Grooms entry involving spaceships, we have also heard of a wedding getting called off because of the choice of biryani! But, what happened earlier this week tops the list!

It happened in Kurmapur village in Unnao district, about 70 km from Lucknow. The marriage of Shiv Kumar (25), a resident of Khutaha village in Unnao, was arranged by his father one Satyanarayan with Kamini (name changed) from the nearby Kurmapur village.

The baraatis reached the village, with the groom,  to solemnize the marriage on April 14. Inebriated

Rasgulla Wedding by The Wedding Planners Diary

Drunk baraatis gyrated on loud music when they reached the venue. They were welcomed by the bride’s father and relatives, with a sprinkle of rose petals. Cold drinks and steamed hot coffee were served with snacks.

Since the baraat had reached a little late, the groom’s father requested for dinner as soon as the dwaarchaar (ceremony at bride’s door) begin. Baraatis were requested to have dinner the moment the ceremony began.

A lavish buffet spread was laid out in a seperate pandal for the baraatis to enjoy.

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Suddenly, a heated argument ensued between the dumb shit cousin of the bride and an idiotic cousin of the groom.Lol, this is where it begins.

The groom’s cousin, Manoj, served himself two rasgullas, much to the annoyance of a close relative of the bride, who was managing the sweet stall. He was instructed to serve only one rasgulla to each baraati. The infuriated relative objected to Manoj taking two rasgullas.

Arguments turned into a scuffle and soon more baraati’s joined Manoj and beat up the bride’s relative. The venue soon turned into a free for all.

Punches and blows were being exchanged like they are in a bar fight. Both sides grabbed whatever they could get their hand’s on and started hurling it at each other.The food pandal came crashing down in no time.

The bide and the groom’s father, who were performing the dwaarchaar ceremony, ran towards the war zone to understand what led to the sudden free-for-all. They tried to pacify but none of the sides backed down.An angry idiotic Manoj, along with other baraatis, abused and thrashed up the bride’s father and other close relatives. It got to a point where someone was about to pull a gun, but to everyone’s surprise, better sense prevailed.

An angry idiotic Manoj, along with other baraatis, abused and thrashed up the bride’s father and other close relatives. It got to a point where someone was about to pull a gun, but to everyone’s surprise, better sense prevailed.

The police, somehow, counseled both sides and restored peace. Village elders and the panchayat were called to sort out the issue and allow the marriage ceremony to be solemnized in their presence. The bride, who was seeing the whole drama from the rooftop refused to marry, I wonder why.

Both sides repented the incident over an extra rasgulla and pleaded the girl to complete the marriage ceremony. But she did not budge even on repeated requests from her parents. Finally, the marriage was called off. Gravies on their faces and dresses, baraatis and groom returned to their village without the bride.

I can not even understand how many different types of dumb and disgusting one has to be to be able to behave like this, period. It does not matter whether it is a wedding or at home, how fucking stupid can you be ?

10 Fun Foods to add a healthy twist to your Wedding Menu!

Weddings are a union of two people and their families and food is a vital part. So much so, that guests look forward to what is on the menu.

With the advent of social media, guests today are extremely well-informed and health conscious and are more receptive towards a healthy and fun twist to the wedding menu, besides the conventional hearty soul food usually served at Indian Weddings.

Here are our Favourites:

1: Baked Pani Puri Shots to bring the zing!

Baked Pani Puri Shots

2: Gluten Free Mini Pizzas that melt in your mouth.

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3. Tender Chicken Satay with Peanut Sauce

chicken satay with peanut sauce

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4.Grilled Fish with Chilly Rosemary Lime Butter

grilled fish with chilly rosemary lime butter

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5.Fresh and Hot Palak Tofu

Delicious Palak Tofu

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6.Soft Baked Stuffed Kulchas

Hot Stuffed Veggie Kulchas

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7.Chickpea and Vegetable Curry with Quinoa

yummy chickpea and vegetable curry with quinoa

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8.Lo Syn Thai Prawn Curry with Rice

Low Fat Prawn Thai Curry

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9. Zesty Lemon Tofu Cheesecake

Tasty Lemon Tofu Cheesecake

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10. Baked Gulab Jamun

Hot and Sweet Baked Gulab Jamun

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Weddings are special, the food makes them even more special 🙂 Adding a healthy and tasty twist to your wedding menu can appeal to all guests alike and make it even more memorable! 🙂

About the Author: Barkha Athania is a vastly experienced and high profile wedding planner based in Mumbai. Her creations and designs are inspired by a variety of diverse cultures, enabling her to provide her clients with an array of options

Our favourite picks for your Sangeet and Wedding Music!

With wedding season in full swing, it is time to dance till you drop. This post is about our picks of songs you can use to make your wedding/sangeet as memorable as can be!

Let’s begin with some high energy tracks for your Sangeet:

The “Gulabo” song (the movie Shaandar) is perfect to start with. This peppy yet not too jarring song will act as the instant mood setter for the evening.

The “Galla Gudiya” song (the movie Dil Dhadakne Do) with its punjabi dance masti flavour will be great for performing in a group or for a couple like chacha-chachi or mama-mami performing on stage.

The “Kar Gayi Chul” song (the movie Kapoor and Sons) has a hint of mischief and flirtatious fun. The young cousins of the bride and groom can get the guests grooving for the fun-filled evening with the help of this song.

The “Chittiya Kalaiyan” song (the movie Roy) is a foot tapping number with appreciation for feminine beauty and is a instant hit with all the women. The pretty bride or her cousins dancing on this number makes for a great idea.

Abhi Toh Party Shuru Hui Hain” song (the movie Khoobsurat) will heighten the enthusiasm quotient among the relatives and guests. Even if there’s no performance planned on this song, it will definitely attract enthusiastic and spontaneous dancers on stage or on the dance floor.

With the excitement hitting the roof, the next best suggestion definitely is “Dj Wale Babu Mera Gana Chala De” and when it plays no one will be able to resist the dance floor!!

Sunny Leone’s “Baby Doll” song definitely deserves mention here. With a solo or a young girls group performance on this, the Sangeet hall will definitely be buzzing with high octane energy.

The “Afghan Jalebi(the movie Phantom) song with its peppy foot tapping Arabic theme music, is an instant hit with the crowd and a cousins performance on this number will definitely make the energy levels hit the roof.

The “Tu Meri” song (the movie Bang Bang) buzzing with energy is perfect for the young crowd to get their groove on.

The “Badtameez Dil” song (the movie Yeh Jawaani Hain Deewani) is needless to say meant for a power packed performance by the bride and groom’s friends and cousins. Such a song will get the foot tapping and hearts racing.

For the Mumbaiya tapori fun song, we have the “Tu Mere Agal Bagal” song (the movie Phata Poster Nikla Hero). Performance on this song will definitely be hilarious to watch.

Our picks for the best romantic songs!

The “Sab Tera” song (the movie Baaghi) is a very soothing romantic number which will be heart warming if performed by the bride and the groom.

The “Pehla Nasha” song (the movie Jo Jeeta Wohi Sikander) is an evergreen song loved through out generations. This song creates an ambience of love like no other song.

The “Samjhawan” song (the movie Humpty Sharma ki Dulhaniya) is again an enchanting love song perfect for the new couple.

The “Pehli Nazar Main” song (the movie Race) of Atif Aslam with its melodious and scintillating rhythm, makes it a good choice for a close dance by the couple.

The “Rabta” song (the movie Agent Vinod) sets a soothing Sufi love environment. It can be used as a dedication from the bride to the groom. Also a popular song for Bridal Entry.

The “Teri Or” song (the movie “Singh is King”) will look very romantic if performed by any couple on stage.

The “Dheere Dheere Se Meri Zindagi” song (the latest album with Hrithik Roshan and Sonam Kapoor) is a remix of an evergreen romantic song of the 1990s. It will make for a cute dedication from the groom to his bride.

Do let us know which one is your favourite 🙂

Disclaimer : We do not claim to own rights to any of the music spoken off in the above post and adequate licenses need to be acquired to use the same on your big day.

Wedding 101: How to Pick Favours with Flavour

Wedding 101: How to Pick Favours with Flavour

Your wedding day will most likely be glorious and memorable, and the people to primarily contribute to this glory will be the guests that grace it. Therefore, to show them that you appreciate their presence on your big day and they play an integral role in the festivities, be sure to select your wedding favours with utmost care. Make these little indulgences memorable enough to be etched in the minds of your friends and family. Here are some innovative and pocket-friendly wedding favour trends that you can choose from.

Confine it to Confectioneries

Chocolates, candies, cupcakes and cookies are sweet treats you just can’t go wrong with. Though these favors have been done to death, no wedding guest has frowned upon discovering a sugary delight in their goody bag. Nothing speaks of love and thanks better than a lovely little mint-flavored after or mouth freshener. Another benefit to presenting candied surprises is that they make appealing, multicolored gift bags that’ll look classy any way they’re wrapped.

 

Components of Joy

Ingredients and spices are unconventional favors, but they’re definitely the most thoughtful and practical. Little bottles of olive oil or rosemary customized with the wedding guests’ names on it would speak much gratitude for the flavor your guests brought to your wedding celebrations. A little case of saffron or jar of cardamom for your Indian guests would prove auspicious and a refreshing change from the usual mithais.

Brew Some Love!

Tea, coffee and cocoa can make for unique, personalized and gourmet wedding gifts. Mini jars of these daily drinks are not only elegant and classy but useful as well. Imagine your guests enjoying a warm, relaxing cup of their favorite beverage while reminiscing about your wedding. So pick out your favorite gourmet blend and show your guests your appreciation with a delightful cuppa joe!

Bubbly Bounties

If you’re looking for an extravagant wedding favor, your search ends here. Miniature bottles of whiskey, vodka and other spirits are the way to go. What could be more festive than having your wedding guests pop open their own personalized bottles of champagne during the wedding toast! There are a million ways to glam up these gifts with glitter, color, ribbons and other shiny things and make these mementos ones that your guests will talk about for eons to come.

Scented Sensations

If your favors aren’t going to be edible, at least make them aromatic. Scented candles, essential oils, soaps, bath and sea salts and potpourri make for unbelievably chic and exotic wedding favors. Whether you want your wedding to symbolize love, peace or fun, there are scents you can present for every mood and theme. These scents will invoke memories of your wedding day for years on end.

Tasteful Table Utilities

Table utilities as wedding favors could be just about anything. You can really let your imagination run wild with this one. Be it a beautiful set of custom-made coasters, an elegant photo frame displaying your guests’ place cards, bottle openers with the invitees’ names, or paperweights that represent the wedding theme, the possibilities are endless. Whatever you opt for, these thoughtful indulgences will truly be special surprises.

Favors truly are worth the effort and price you will invest in them. Guests look forward to receiving them, so make sure they’re functional, fun, meaningful and won’t be left behind. They’re tokens of appreciation and needn’t be overly extravagant. Just remember to offer what you can afford, but something that you would appreciate receiving. Happy shopping!

Saved by the Card: Save That Date!

Saved by the Card: Save That Date!

Have you ever faced that situation where you completely forgot about a bumchum’s birthday party or missed a close friend’s baby shower because you forgot to note the date down in your daily planner or organizer? Join the club. This particular memory lapse with dates due to the busy lives we lead is a problem mankind has faced since the beginning of time (well, at least the century). Your wedding day will probably be the biggest day of your life, and you’ll want the people you love to be a part of it. So to ensure that there are limited no-shows at your wedding, be sure to give your guests proper notice and have them save the date of your big day.

Time it to a T

Save-the-date cards are a fun and casual way of informing your potential wedding guests that your D-day is in the looming and that they should block their calendars for it. However, it’s extremely important that these cards be timed perfectly so they are most effective. Waiting till the last quarter before your wedding to send these love notes would defeat their purpose as you would ideally be sending out your formal wedding invitation by then. On the other hand, sending save-the-date cards out a year (or more) in advance would prove disastrous if you happened to change the date or venue or some other unforeseen issue was to arise. Only consider the year-long reminder if you plan on a destination wedding and your guests will have to make arrangements to fly in.

Leave no man behind

Remember that save-the-date cards are a fun reminder sent for the benefit of your guests, so don’t deprive anyone of these quirky little nudges. Most people have this notion that only out-of-towners or people they’re not really in touch with regularly need save-the-date cards. Well, don’t go by this folk tale if you want to avoid confusion when planning your guest list. Send these prompts out to every single person on the list, including close friends and family, and make sure they have your date highlighted in their planners.

Do it with style

Save-the-date cards are supposed to be creative and fun and unlike the formal wedding invitation you will send out. So let your imagination run wild and come up with an out-of-the-box idea to customize these little containers of joy. You can send out a quirky card, a cool-looking magnet, a cute little box of trinkets (including a His & Hers figurine), a playful make-it-yourself set (such as paper dolls or spinner cards), a creative bookmark, a bag of potpourri, or a humble postcard. Whatever you do, make sure there’s a little bit of you in it.

Word it with care

Just as you’ll put great thought into how the card will look, you’ll want to customize the wording on it too. Whether you go traditional or unconventional, there are a few points you must remember to add. Be sure to have your and your spouse’s name on the card, and mention the date and venue of the wedding (obviously). If you’re having a destination wedding, include an itinerary of the functions and parties; information regarding airfare, hotels and car rentals; hotspots for sightseeing (so your guests can make a trip of it), and other fun knowledge. The more detailed your card is, the bigger the sense of excitement it will generate!

Save-the-date cards are the first official announcement of your wedding, so put your heart into making these snippets of detail a joyous occasion for yourself and all your guests. Most importantly, don’t forget to have a blast!

How to be a Good Wedding Guest

How to be a Good Wedding Guest

There are some unspoken rules to follow when you find yourself on the guest list of somebody’s special day. What are the do’s and don’ts of a wedding guest? We’ve got the answers! Here’s a quick list to help you act the part of a gracious, respectful guest; and guarantee an invite to weddings beyond the one you are already attending.

RSVP

Wedding invitations are usually sent 4-6 weeks in advance. Pay attention to the deadline and rsvp as soon as humanly possible. It saves a lot of stress for the bride and groom, as there is a lot of expense on planning; and most of that expense is dictated by the numbers on that list.

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Arrive on Time

Plan to be at the venue at least 20-30 minutes prior to the main ceremony. Also, never assume that it’s okay for you to miss the main part of the day, as long as you get to attend the reception. Show the couple how much they mean to you by being present for their special moments. They invited you for the same reason.

Don’t be disrespectful to the couple’s religions/traditions

When some ritual you do not understand is going on, which might require you to maintain silence or even join in, pay attention.

Minimize your cell phone usage

Be present at the wedding – avoid being on the phone the whole time, reporting the wedding to somebody else through messages or calls. Mingling with the other guests present is a good option.

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Do not play paparazzi – unless instructed

It’s great that everybody has a smartphone these days, but it’s really a nuisance when every one pops up in front of the couple to click “candid moments” and immediately shares them on all social networking sites. Unless the couple has asked you to be their photographer, refrain from random clicking and respect their privacy.

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Pay attention to the dress code

Weddings are formal occasions. Dress smart. Keep your clothing simple – even though you just got into shape or splurged on an extravagant outfit, do not steal the bride/groom’s thunder on their big day.

Congratulate the family

Giving the couple your best compliments/congratulatory messages is obvious; seek out to their family, introduce yourself (if you’ve never met them before) and tell them how much you enjoyed the wedding.

colorful-indian-wedding-new-york-wedding-photography__fullDrink Responsibly

Everybody loves an open bar – but keep yourself at an average pace to save some embarrassing moments for you and the others around.

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Congrats, you just made it to the list of the most favorite people to be invited to all formal soirees.

And The List Goes On & On & On…

Think back to all the parties you’ve organized or hosted. They all have a similar framework which involves catering, invites, giveaways and so on but have you realized none of these elements can be finalised until you know how many people are expected. And this issue perhaps stems from the big question  – how many guests should you invite in the first place?

As individuals of a society we always tend to base these decisions on different factors ranging from who invited us in the past to who we really want as part of our celebrations, from who is immediate family to who could pass off as far-off relatives. Each of these thoughts play a role in determining your final guest list and we know the problems it can pose. For this we suggest a four finger rule on how to create guest lists, especially for weddings, which are an elaborate affair.

Categorize the crowd

The easiest way to start the list is to categorize everyone you know. Create titles for each list like immediate family, secondary family, relatives, neighbors, colleagues, classmates and so forth. This way everyone is bracketed in a way to enable you to understand their place in your life on your big day. Our favorite way to getting started is running through your phone list, Facebook friends or the age old address book at home.

Prioritize the people

Once you have categorized the guests, it is now time to rate them in order of importance. The ones who are extremely special and important to you are prioritized on the list with a star or highlighter so you know that they are definitely included for the wedding whereas the rest remain as options based on other factors.

Feel the function

By now your most important guests are marked on the list and perhaps you are contemplating over which ones should be invited from the rest of the list. For this it is extremely important to visualize the wedding functions. Think about what kind of mood you want to set and that should give you an idea. If you want a Mehendi function that is intimate and fun then you would most likely omit acquaintances or colleagues but if you would want something more extensive then you would include the ones who aren’t too close to you as well. Similarly you wouldn’t have a bachelor or youngsters party which included far off relatives – would you? Thinking along the lines of how you would want to enjoy each day of your wedding will definitely help you define the guest list even better.

Adhere to the arrangement

Once you reach this stage, you will realize that you pretty much have a guest list that is quite close to the final one but what will really make it the final one is your ability to stick to it. We strongly recommend to try and avoid checking the list more than twice or thrice to the maximum else it is a case of – back to square one – and you will not see yourself progressing.

We aren’t claiming that making the guest list is as easy as we are trying to make it sound but we assure you it isn’t as big a task if you are systematic, focused and of course calm. So get your laptop, open up an excel sheet (avoid wasting paper where you can) and go! Good luck.