Growing up in India, we all at some point go through the wonderful process of arranged marriage.
Calls go back and forth, mothers speak first, meetings are set up and the bride and groom to be, move on from one prospect to another being evaluated and checked, and this is just me trying to sound normal about it, it is however quite a mechanical process in all honesty.
Most times though, this seems to work. Happy couples, happy families and all is well that ends well.
But sometimes, outrageous demands are made. From Dowry to threats to what not. A post by one quora user is beyond outrageous. It is outrageously the most outrageous of outrageous demands I have ever heard.
In fact I have never heard something even close to such nonsense.
See the post here:
What the post says:
“Okay, This is an experience I heard from a friend.
The girl belongs to an orthodox, religious Indian family. She lives with her 2 paternal uncles, their wives and kids and has 2 siblings of her own, in short an elaborate joint family.
She has just completed her B.A. from a girl’s college, does excellent embroidery and Henna Art, and congratulations, she’s a very strong candidate for Marriage.
The younger paternal uncle’s friend’s neighbor’s wife’s brother-in-law’s brother (phew) is a candidate too. So a marriage proposal is laid down and a meeting is fixed for the prospective groom’s family to visit the girl’s place to “SEE” her and “EVALUATE” her.
Both the sides, everyone is excited, preparations are in flow and the fateful day arrives.
The prospective groom arrives with an elaborate family of his own. His mother takes the lead and begins scrutinizing the girl, grilling her with all possible questions and the groom-to-be is eating cake and biscuits in merry. After the intense grilling session, the girl breathes a sigh of relief and looks towards the prospective groom’s face, to catch a glimpse, to realize he’s still busy eating cake.
Suddenly the to-be Mother-in-law whispers something in the girl’s mother’s ears. Startled at first, the mother says something to her mother-in-law and reluctantly they both get up from the living room, politely excuse themselves from the guests and along with the girl and the groom-to-be’s Mother, go to the nearest bedroom.
Now, you will not believe this, the prospective Mother-in-law asks the girl to strip down because she wants to make sure that the girl is “FAIR” overall, physically fit for marriage, bears no sign of albinism and is a virgin!
The poor girl is embarrassed and bursts into tears, the girl’s grandmother politely refuses to such outrageous demands and excuses the lady out of the room.
The marriage proposal is discarded and the girl is admitted to a computer course for 6 months, till next time..
This is horrendous and insulting and by far the craziest experience I’ve heard concerning arranged marriages.
Till date, prospective brides are treated like an item on sale, to be examined thoroughly for damage and quality before pasting a “sold” label onto their foreheads. Such outrageous demands begin with scrutinizing the bride-to-be for appearance, lead to dowry demands, and later domestic abuse.”
It makes one wonder how many different types of sick does a person have to be to even imagine going to someone’s house and making such an outrageous demand, actually doing it is a completely different story.
What do you think?