But first, let’s talk about SELFIES!

Selfies. Let’s discuss.

Wedding Selfies

Ellen took one at the Oscars. Songs have been recorded about them. And yes, with their good hair and epic backdrops, weddings seem like the ideal situation in which to snap one. While we’re all for documenting the good times, there are moments at every wedding when selfies are totally not okay. Read on for our guide to when to put the camera phone down—and when you should feel free to snap away.

Weddingwire carefully highlights moments that are a total faux pas for selfies that a wedding guest must bear in mind before lifting their iPhone up and browsing across filters.

1. While the bride is getting dressed 
Let’s face it—sucking in while squeezing into undergarments is not a good look for anyone. Wait until she’s fully dressed to pose for the pic, and then wait until after the groom sees her to post it.

2. Before her makeup is done 
Nobody, nobody, wants a picture of themselves floating around cyberspace sans make-up, and this is especially true of brides. Do you really want to risk the wrath of your friend moments before she makes her debut?

3. During the Procession
A bride’s walk down the aisle is one of the most intimate and important moments of the wedding, and you are guaranteed to ruin it if you stick an elbow out (or worse, stand up) to take a selfie during it.

4. While the couple is exchanging vows 
The almost-newlyweds are in the midst of making a lifelong commitment to each other. The courteous thing to do is sit quietly and listen, not crop your image to better flatter your face.

5. During the first kiss 
This is still part of the vows, so not exactly the most appropriate moment to toggle between the Nashville and Hefe filters on Instagram.

6. While the wedding party is posing for portraits 
The photographer the couple hired to take pictures of the day has this under control. No need to hold up your phone and point it at yourself when there’s a pro being paid.

7. While the couple is eating 
If and when the couple finds a moment to eat between greeting guests and dancing, there’s no question they’ll be scarfing food down quickly. Please do NOT take this opportunity to ask them to pose for a pic.

8. During personal moments 
Being the guest of honor means making the rounds to all sorts of attendees. Let the couple have their space with the people who made an extra effort to be there, especially older relatives.

9. While you’re giving a toast 
Snapping photos of yourself Kim Kardashian-style during what is supposed to be a genuine and sincere expression of feelings will not be received well by the couple or any of the guests. Preserve your image by putting the iPhone away.

10. The couple’s first dance 
For Catholic Weddings, this is in no way, shape, or form a moment that should include you. It’s totally kosher to ‘gram the first dance, but make sure the newlyweds are the only people in it.

11. During the send-off 
The important thing here is to send the couple off into married life in style. Wave your sparkler with enthusiasm, and wait until they’re safely in the limo before you start posing whimsically with it.

All that being said, there are certain times during a wedding when selfies are totally appropriate—and even encouraged! Here’s when you can feel free to selfie away:

1. While you’re tearing up the dance floor
2. A reunion of old college friends
3. In your getting-ready and drinking outfits, pre-ceremony
4. While you’re seated and anxiously awaiting the bride’s walk down the aisle 
5. During cocktail hour/ Reception.

About the Author: This post has been written by Sarah Title for WeddingWire.

Photo Courtesy –  Katelyn James Photography

wedding budget

How much is too much?

How much is too much? A question you often ask yourself when discussing money. A question for which we may never find the exact answer because budgeting is a concept that is relative. Like they say, ‘one man’s food is another man’s poison’, similarly, what one might consider the basics might be an extravagant affair for another.

The scale varies tremendously when it comes to budgeting weddings and understanding where to draw the line. This to many can be the most tedious and stressful part of wedding planning and therefore here are a few pointers to get you started in the right direction.

Prepare a budget

This can be a tricky one but we always like to believe that ‘nothing is impossible’. If you don’t know what amount to begin with which means, if you don’t know how many zeroes to add to the digits then we suggest working backwards. Aim at creating a rough estimate based on the total costing of all the things you would like to include at your wedding.

Create lists

This one has to be our favourite. We love the efficiency achieved when you break down everything to smaller, simpler parts. Create multiple lists of the different aspects of the wedding ranging from personal to family expenses, decor to entertainment expenses, accommodation to catering expenses. These lists are then further divided to help track what expenses each of them include. Like for example the ‘Personal’ list could include your wedding outfit, cost of hair and make up, cost of accessories while the ‘Entertainment’ list could include costs of hiring a DJ, the band for the baraat etc.

Rank your sub lists

Creating a list not only assists you in breaking down your expenses but also allows you a clearer understanding of what is most important to you both as a couple. It allows you to prioritize the costs based on your preferences. This is an effective way of saving yourself the moolah you would otherwise be spending with the assumption that everything needs a big budget because everything is important.

Source multiple vendors

We say work hard but more importantly, work smart. A good idea would be to gather quotations from multiple vendors as this allows comparison. A good way to start sourcing vendors would be through references and then move on to search-based vendors or just hire a wedding planner who would give you the costs at the most economical rate.

Recruit a good planner

Time and again we stress the assistance of a good wedding planner to help you through your big day because we assure you it’s a battle half won. Professional wedding planners not only assist you with creating lists of what all needs to be budgeted but their strong network of vendors also means better costs and guaranteed quality of work. After all we don’t like to take gambles on big days, do we?

Whether your strategy is to start with a model budget and work towards trimming it down or to start from scratch and work each costing till you arrive to a final figure, we recommend you to be systematic. Like we said, there’s no right or wrong spending but there is definitely the irrational spending that you would like to avoid.

The Wedding Co. aims to provide you a budget-friendly wedding without any compromises on the details. Our team works with you on each and every detail of the event and provides you guidance at each step so that your vision becomes a reality.