But first, let’s talk about SELFIES!

Selfies. Let’s discuss.

Wedding Selfies

Ellen took one at the Oscars. Songs have been recorded about them. And yes, with their good hair and epic backdrops, weddings seem like the ideal situation in which to snap one. While we’re all for documenting the good times, there are moments at every wedding when selfies are totally not okay. Read on for our guide to when to put the camera phone down—and when you should feel free to snap away.

Weddingwire carefully highlights moments that are a total faux pas for selfies that a wedding guest must bear in mind before lifting their iPhone up and browsing across filters.

1. While the bride is getting dressed 
Let’s face it—sucking in while squeezing into undergarments is not a good look for anyone. Wait until she’s fully dressed to pose for the pic, and then wait until after the groom sees her to post it.

2. Before her makeup is done 
Nobody, nobody, wants a picture of themselves floating around cyberspace sans make-up, and this is especially true of brides. Do you really want to risk the wrath of your friend moments before she makes her debut?

3. During the Procession
A bride’s walk down the aisle is one of the most intimate and important moments of the wedding, and you are guaranteed to ruin it if you stick an elbow out (or worse, stand up) to take a selfie during it.

4. While the couple is exchanging vows 
The almost-newlyweds are in the midst of making a lifelong commitment to each other. The courteous thing to do is sit quietly and listen, not crop your image to better flatter your face.

5. During the first kiss 
This is still part of the vows, so not exactly the most appropriate moment to toggle between the Nashville and Hefe filters on Instagram.

6. While the wedding party is posing for portraits 
The photographer the couple hired to take pictures of the day has this under control. No need to hold up your phone and point it at yourself when there’s a pro being paid.

7. While the couple is eating 
If and when the couple finds a moment to eat between greeting guests and dancing, there’s no question they’ll be scarfing food down quickly. Please do NOT take this opportunity to ask them to pose for a pic.

8. During personal moments 
Being the guest of honor means making the rounds to all sorts of attendees. Let the couple have their space with the people who made an extra effort to be there, especially older relatives.

9. While you’re giving a toast 
Snapping photos of yourself Kim Kardashian-style during what is supposed to be a genuine and sincere expression of feelings will not be received well by the couple or any of the guests. Preserve your image by putting the iPhone away.

10. The couple’s first dance 
For Catholic Weddings, this is in no way, shape, or form a moment that should include you. It’s totally kosher to ‘gram the first dance, but make sure the newlyweds are the only people in it.

11. During the send-off 
The important thing here is to send the couple off into married life in style. Wave your sparkler with enthusiasm, and wait until they’re safely in the limo before you start posing whimsically with it.

All that being said, there are certain times during a wedding when selfies are totally appropriate—and even encouraged! Here’s when you can feel free to selfie away:

1. While you’re tearing up the dance floor
2. A reunion of old college friends
3. In your getting-ready and drinking outfits, pre-ceremony
4. While you’re seated and anxiously awaiting the bride’s walk down the aisle 
5. During cocktail hour/ Reception.

About the Author: This post has been written by Sarah Title for WeddingWire.

Photo Courtesy –  Katelyn James Photography

5 Hilarious & Most Common Pre-Wedding Nightmares!

This blog post by Weddingplz lists 5 hilarious common pre-wedding nightmares that a bride-to-be is endangered to come across. If you are a likely candidate, watch out for these nightmares and read on to know how to tackle them!

I remember patting myself on the back when I was passing through my pre-wedding phase. “This too shall pass,” I had tried comforting my nervous self back then. But who could deal with the nightmares. Pre-wedding nightmares are something nobody tells you about, but everybody survives in their own ways.

I would like to take this opportunity to share some of my pre-wedding nightmares with all of you who are planning to get married soon. Remember, there is nothing wrong with you, you are not possessed. These nightmares are very common and will disappear from your wedding night!

Let’s start with the most common nightmare of them all –

#1. Waking up to realize you have missed your own wedding! A lot of us wake up screaming in the middle of the night and then go back to sleep after we have embarrassed ourselves…

Missed your own wedding.weddingplz

“My wedding was supposed to be YESTERDAY,” you shout at your sleepy family members. This is perfectly understandable; the family will show you a calendar and also offer to keep a reminder alarm two days before the actual wedding.

This nightmare will continue for many sleepless nights but you will win over the sympathy of your family and your pet dog.

Let’s move on to the other nightmare.

#2. The opposition has called for a nationwide bandh on your wedding day! You haven’t finished your studies for the Std 12 boards and you expect a bandh to be declared but no, this miracle will happen only on your wedding day!

Nationwide bandh on weddingday.weddingplz

I have imagined bandhs, curfews, floods, tornadoes and even earthquakes happening right on my wedding day. I suggest you drink one glass of water before going to bed and that will help drown these adventurous thoughts. Reading the Hanuman Chalisa also helps but drinking water is comparatively easier!

The next nightmare I’ll throw light on is a creepy one.

#3. Being infected by chicken pox just before your wedding! This is as good as waking up to find an ugly pimple on the morning of your wedding. If you are the groom, this isn’t anything to bother about, but in case you are the bride and are regularly waking up to find imaginary pox marks all over your body, then I suggest you drink a glass of hot haldi milk before going to bed. Applying haldi paste all over your body at bedtime is also effective as haldi or turmeric is a good anti-septic.

Chicken pox on wedding.weddingplz

Oh and by the way, I did get the chicken pox but that was a good 8 months after my wedding!

Now moving on to the big one!

#4. Short-term memory loss nightmares, one that affects the whole of mankind. Have you woken up shocked and numb because your would-be partner does not recognise you anymore? I did.

I get all pretty and decked up in my wedding hairdo, makeup and saree and walk up to the man I love and want to marry and spend the rest of my life with. But, he walks away as if I were a ghost. I confront him, “Hey, where are you off to? We’re getting married today!” He can’t hear a thing I say!

I panic. I follow him and start screaming at the top of my lungs, before getting into a tug of war with him. He does not budge but what I find in my trembling hands instead – is my own blanket.

Short-term memory loss.weddingplz

The only solution is to call/message your partner even if it is 3:00 am and ask them if they remember everything about you, including the wedding date and your lucky colour. Most would-be grooms have also shared the same nightmare!

The next one involves a precious wedding keepsake – the wedding album.

#5. Disappearance of your wedding album! The wedding photographer calls me up to inform that he forgot to save our wedding pictures and I scream and yell at him, while he goes about unrepentantly, “Sorry madam.. Ab kuch nahi ho saktha! You guys get married again :)”

Wedding album lost.weddingplz

When we were on our honeymoon, our photographer actually called to inform that all those pretty wedding pictures we’d posed for – have got DESTROYED. My sad but true story… I had to work hard to filter out still images from the wedding video.

Nightmares are real but they are only as much real as you want to think. Always  remember – Darr ke aage jeet hai! Never fear when a wedding is near.

Disclaimer:  None of the methods mentioned here have been tried and tested before, so do use them at your own discretion.

 

About the Author: Vinaya Naydu for www.weddingplz.com